Relationship Advice For Women – The Basics – part 8
This is the age-old ‘older male to younger male’ counseling session. Then you find the younger males jousting with each other – trying to establish the pecking order within the group. Older men use more subtle methods but they do the same thing. Men feel
more secure within a hierarchy so they seek to build one in every group. Do not interfere with this process. Women have their own sub society, some of which are hierarchies but most are not. Women tend to be in or out of the group rather than in a strict order within the group.
Part of the male social hierarchy is based upon sexual success – fulfillment of their primary role. More women, the best women, the most children, the most successful children, the better job, bigger portfolio, and so on – all of these become part of the ’social climbing’. The number one criteria is the ability to find and keep a high quality mate. Men realize that this can be difficult. Finding women is easy enough for most men, but keeping her is hard. Finding high quality women can be difficult at times but keeping her is the most difficult task of all. High quality women tend to be more demanding.
What men mean by ‘high-quality’ is beauty, brains, wealth, charm, reproductive value, and that elusive ability to rock their world with only a glance. Since women have a limited period of time during which she is reproductive, younger women have a higher value than older women – that is to say, younger women have more time and chances to bear and raise more children. A female of 14 has a higher reproductive value than a female of 24 who has a higher reproductive value of a woman of 34 and so on until a woman hits menopause. This is just a fact. Fortunately, not all men want more children.
Each man will have his own priorities and those priorities will change over time. Each man has his own idea of beauty and this too will change over time. As will yours. The young pup of 20-something looks very good to a 20-something woman but seems
incredibly juvenile to a seasoned woman of 30- something.
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