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Onto more pleasant topics!
We shall begin with flirting or ‘how to hold onto man while keeping him at arm’s length’. The rule here is do not touch him. If you touch him, even lightly on his hand, he’ll take that as sexual interest in him and as permission to touch you. This is fine if that’s where you want to go but it isn’t ‘keeping him at arm’s length’. So long as don’t touch him, you can chat, laugh at his jokes, tell a few of your own and so on – it remains just flirting.

Under the heading of flirting with sexual intent are two games – “Confuse-a-Male” and “Shot Your Fox”. Both are extremely feminine and as such they both entrance and exasperate the men. By using “Confuse-a-Male” you are indicating a moderate level of interest in him. If you play “Shot Your Fox” you plan on bedding him at the earliest opportunity if he doesn’t make a mistake.
“Confuse-a-Male” is where you pull out all the stops and use elliptical references, innuendo, and nuance to the maximum extent permitted by law. Go ahead and verbally tease him and run linguistic rings around him – if you can. An experienced man will know what you are doing, and what it means (he may even play along) while an inexperienced man will just be befuddled.

“Shot Your Fox” is when both the man and the woman slyly and elaborately and with great deliberation refuse to get each other’s jokes while playing one joke off another in a kind of stately dance.This can only be done with a man who is capable of
playing it. The first one who laughs, loses the game. Once again, an experienced man will understand exactly what you are doing and what your intentions are while the inexperienced man will undoubtedly make a mistake.

Men do expect women to exhibit some sibylline behavior so not being straight-forward is okay but only to a point. Some shyness, indecisiveness, and even timidity is acceptable but again, only up to a point. Once you get to know him and he has earned a measure of your trust, he expects you to calm down and relax. The time has then come for you to ’step up’ and enter a relationship or to ’step off’ and decline his offer of a relationship.