In some instances, women fell for men’s lines and end up being in relationship with them. They get on with the life created by these men. Fictitious lives lived in duality and secrecy. Secret from the lady they are dating. The secret? That the man they are dating is already married.
I didn’t say this is a bad thing, but a sad truth to women who fell and got hurt in the process from the lies they believed from the men they fell in love and have a relationship with.
One woman I know was a victim of this. She didn’t know that the man she was going out with was married. They’ve been together for quite a while, most of our friends would say she found a keeper, aside from being so charming and gentlemanly characteristics, he is also extremely generous. Generous to a fault; he would give her jewelry, laptops, pays for vacations, and he is not an old guy. I was a little alarmed but I didn’t say anything because I don’t want to sound like a jealous friend. Who wants to have their bubbles burst? I wouldn’t.
But subtly, I asked them, “when are you both going to get married?” the guy would only smile a knowing smile and looks away. I would joke around, “you are not married are you?”, and then laugh. Somehow they find it funny.
Months turned to years and no wedding bells, my friend started to get nervous and told me, “Something tells me he is married. Whenever I brought up the question about marriage he just seemed distant and a different person.” I told him then about my hunch, and advised her to get the man checked for his marital status. I was right on about it, we found out he lived a double life, he is married, has a wife and three cute kids. My friend was devastated of course, finding out that you are the other woman in a relationship is a serious self-esteem buster, but at least she found out he was such a liar, and a player. She made contact with the wife, told her everything about their relationship and dumped the guy.
Lesson learned. She got really cautious about her relationship altogether that she never fails to check them out first before going out with them.