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Before the advent of DNA, there was little way of telling whether a child was the offspring of a particular man. The woman had to be there so it was easier to know if the child was hers. This leads to a basic psychological insecurity in men. This insecurity leads to the jealousy and possessiveness we see in men. Some can overcome it, some cannot. Women can have it too but in their case it is based upon the fear of being abandoned and left to care for children on their own. If she has independent means, she has little cause to feel this way while money rarely cures a man
of his jealousy and possessiveness.

These two emotions lead to aggressiveness and competitiveness. Not only must a man provide, hunt, for his family, he must also protect and defend them. Other men represent a threat. Then there are those disenfranchised men – those without homes or families. They do not have anything invested to hold them to the community and represent a threat to society at large. If they have no other outlet, they tend to turn to crime.

Thus genetically and behaviorally, men tend to live dangerously and to seek thrills more than women do. They like motorcycles, for example, more than women do. There’s also another element to this matrix. They want women to notice them. They want women to think they are big and brave and therefore would make good husbands and fathers. Even if the women think they’re idiots for doing something dangerous, men think it is worth the risk because “she noticed me”. If a woman notices you, you’ve got a chance to mate with her. She might select you instead of the next guy.